The Story of Your Alternative Legal Career

January 13, 2012 alternative legal career / job search / lawyer dysfunction / lawyers & depression / legal career change / legal career counseling

These “truths” about leaving law and finding an alternative legal career only work in the context of depressed, dysfunctional people. They’re a profession-wide form of group-think. They get reinforced constantly. That’s why they feel so deeply true.
But theses stories are not TRUTH written on high. They’re only stories you are choosing. And they’re sabotaging your efforts and making you miserable. Maybe it’s time to start re-writing your tired, dispiriting plot lines with some new truths that make it a helluva lot easier to get out of bed

You Can’t Buy the Career Ticket Before Knowing the Destination

July 12, 2011 alternative legal career / job search / legal career advice / legal career change / legal career counseling / legal career options

Do you keep using lizard tools to find a new career? That’s what searching for jobs on legal job sites is. That’s what listening to legal recruiters is. That’s what worrying about what your salary might be is. Really, that’s what all your worry about lack is: lizard worry about logistics, about the plane ticket. Lizards don’t do hope and joy and meaning. But you can.

What Lawyers Can Learn from Dragonflies

June 24, 2011 alternative legal career / associate life / BigLaw / lawyer dysfunction / lawyers & depression / legal career advice / legal career counseling

Nascent unhappy lawyers chase accolades for grades and accomplishments. They please parents and teachers and then law firm partners, by squishing themselves into the success box rather than looking inside themselves for their truth.

The Conditions Are Never Ideal

June 7, 2011 alternative legal career / law firms / legal career advice / legal career change / legal career counseling / legal career options

You know what a lot of resistance to getting an alternative legal career boils down to? The conditions are not ideal. That’s it, really. And our perfectionist, either/or thinking tells us to throw up our hands and give up because the conditions are not ideal. That’s a dodge.

Workaholic Lawyers, Avoiding Life

May 31, 2011 alternative legal career / associate life / BigLaw / law firms / lawyer dysfunction / lawyer personality / lawyers & depression / legal career change / legal career counseling / soul's needs

Numbing out is our way of avoiding pain, but it has the unfortunate downside of numbing us to joy as well. When we numb out, we embrace less than our full humanity. We become less, sometimes far less, than our full selves. Wow, doesn’t that sound appealing.

If You’re Creative, You’re Screwed in Law

May 16, 2011 alternative legal career / lawyer personality / legal career advice / legal career counseling

I’m in the middle of playing Connect 4 with the 7 year-old. He loves this game, and he’s pretty good

I’m not THAT Jennifer Alvey, Either

May 9, 2011 BigLaw / Friday Files / legal career change / legal career counseling

Well, she’s at it again. One of those other Jennifer Alveys. This one was the Indiana state finance director a