What a lot of career coaches don’t like to talk about is that not every single one of your gifts can or should be monetized. But that’s OK, because while pursuing a particular gift may not advance any career goals, it can make your life incredibly richer and more meaningful.
When your authentic self gets fed even 5 minutes of joy daily, that’s when the life and career magic can start to unfold.
Try something fun that scares you, that you aren’t at all sure how it’s going to turn out. Give up some control, and get some energy back. You’ll rev up your life, and your career search.
Maybe it’s time to prepare for your transformation from unhappy lawyer to empowered artist, entrepreneur, or whatever else your heart really desires. Spend 40 days getting ready to change. Be like the caterpillar, seeking out and devouring everything around you that can feed your upcoming transformation.
I couldn’t see what career I wanted for, oh, years. And that’s because of all the things I knew. The alleged knowledge was blinding. The key to seeing the evidence of what your heart really wants is to stop using the knowledge lens.
Sometimes, the evidence of what you really want to do with your career is sitting out in plain sight. All you have to do is take off your blinders of knowing, and see. Simple, yet fiendishly difficult at times. Like operating the fancy new coffeepot.
Test your new career ideas by trying out a key skill or activity. Focus on how you can do some testing, rather than telling yourself all the reasons it’s too hard right now. If the first test doesn’t light your fire, it is not necessarily a sign that whatever you’re testing isn’t for you. It’s easy to confuse fear of failure with dislike of an activity at first, and that’s why you need to give something several small tests before deciding it’s not for you right now.
Most of the time Morning Pages, tool #3, are whiny, boring and seriously petty. And then, in the midst of the stupid, magic happens. A sentence will pop out that you didn’t even know you were thinking about. A sentence that can change your life.
Finally, we are past the day (Feb. 15) when nearly all New Year’s Resolutions have gone up in flames. Now that all of that externalizing has burned itself out, it’s time to get down to what’s truly important in your life and your work.
The key reason pessimists need to work their way toward optimism: If you’re joined at the hip to the harsh reality that life can routinely dish up, your dreams don’t have a place to exist. They die. Ultimately, refusing to dream costs you a life worth living. A life without dreams is a gray, dim walking death.