Numbing out is our way of avoiding pain, but it has the unfortunate downside of numbing us to joy as well. When we numb out, we embrace less than our full humanity. We become less, sometimes far less, than our full selves. Wow, doesn’t that sound appealing.
Sometimes our blind spots are in how much we are willing to contort ourselves rather than confront the issue. Kind of like how law firms will throw money at attorneys rather than deal with bad behavior of some partners, and setting actual limits and boundaries with clients. Or how we rationalize accepting beyond-the-pale treatment in the name of money.
The goo phase of leaving law is often highly uncomfortable, but usually quite necessary as you give up toxic lawyer ideas about work and life, and start embracing the ones that are important and real for you.
Even lawyers are creative. But they usually want to see evidence of creativity before considering that they might have some. That’s backwards. The urge to create comes way before the manifestation, and that urge needs nurturing and guidance, not boot camp and production quotas.
I’m in the middle of playing Connect 4 with the 7 year-old. He loves this game, and he’s pretty good at it. I, on the other hand, am bored out of my mind. Then I berate myself that I need to share his enthusiasm, to enter his world. So I try to understand the attraction…
On the one hand, pitching in on these extra tasks sucks, because you’re already working too many hours and no matter how helpful, that non-billable time is conveniently forgotten at review time. On the other hand, you can learn new, non-attorney skills that might come in quite handy in an alternative legal career search.
Well, she’s at it again. One of those other Jennifer Alveys. This one was the Indiana state finance director a couple years back, and allegedly had back-door communications with the operators of a proposed gasification plant about a pending contract; not cool under state sunshine laws. Another Jennifer Alvey, a few years back, was convicted…