Unhappy attorneys keep themselves stuck in a myriad of ways. One of those ways is putting blinders on to the real consequences of our choices. In other words, we lie to ourselves.
Any of these sound familiar?
- If I can just make it through this trial/brief/deal/negotiation, everything will be fine.
- I don’t have time to eat right/exercise/breathe—I have way too much work to do. I’ll deal with that later.
- I hardly ever waste time online looking for jobs/playing Angry Birds/shopping/checking my Facebook feed.
- It’s a funeral—Aunt Mildred won’t care that I’m not there, she’s dead.
- Everyone gets depressed Sunday night. It’s work, that’s why they pay me the big bucks.
- My real friends won’t mind that they only hear from me once or twice a year. They know I care about them.
- My kids are much better off going to a private school. After all, I’m not a teacher, so having me around more wouldn’t help them get ahead as much.
- My relationship with my spouse/significant other is fine. We do much better if we don’t see each other all the time.
- I don’t have time to worry about whether my soul is dying because I’m not pursuing any happiness or joy.
What are your favorite lies you see lawyers tell themselves?
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