In my prior post, I talked about giving the Universe room to maneuver and thus help you walk your dream career and life path.
The thing is, people in general and lawyers in particular usually don’t trust the Universe to deliver. We dream microscopically, and just ask for a job we don’t hate, rather than a job we adore that doesn’t feel like work and that pays plenty. Then when we get something bigger than what we asked for–but not the exact, minimalist version we ordered from our limited mental catalog–we often send it back. Because we don’t believe in the generosity of the Universe.
This is not theoretical. Once, I was desperately short of money for quite a while. I stopped at a 7-Eleven on my way to work to get some highly nutritious mini-chocolate doughnuts. As I went to pay, there on the candy shelves, about knee level in front of the cash register, lay a $20 bill. Did I pick it up like a rational person would? No, don’t be silly. Instead I thought, “Someone else may need that more than me.” So I left it there.
OK, I suppose from one point of view I got some sainthood points or something, but as I’ve reflected on that moment over the years, what I really think is that I was a complete doink. There I was, feeling very poor, unloved, lonely, with no one to rely on but myself. I wanted a better life, one that included a job I at least didn’t hate, a doting boyfriend and much more money. I wanted to feel cared for and about. So the Universe decides to send me a little hope, a $20 care package, and what do I do? SEND IT BACK.
Yes, I still do the V-8 forehead smack over that.
So how can you give the Universe a chance to step up and deliver big? Summon some positive energy to yourself by acting in faith. Have faith that the Universe wants the best for you, and not in some mean, authoritarian parent sort of way. Rather, in a “Do What You Love, the Money Will Follow” sort of way.
I know, you find this really hard to believe. Lots of eyeballs rolling about now, I imagine. You’re pretty certain that life sucks for all but a lucky few. If you’re not one of those few, you have to work very hard at a job you hate just to get by. Ain’t no Universe gonna support you. Hasn’t so far—you’ve worked your butt off to get where you are, and you’re exhausted.
Of course, you’ve been working your butt off to get somewhere you’ve never really wanted to go. That might, possibly, be why it feels so hard. Just sayin’. Wonder what it would feel like if you did what your heart wanted, and had faith the Universe would support that?
As Anne Lamott says, the opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty. I think that’s why lawyers are often miserable—they’ve abandoned faith that things can be better for the certainty that they won’t be. And then they proceed to gather their proof of that certainty. But as any good trial lawyer knows, you can nearly always find evidence to support a theory—the real challenge is persuading the fact-finder to believe in your truth.
So I challenge you instead to gather proof that the Universe will support your dreams. Spend even half the energy you currently do gathering your negative evidence, and instead gather evidence of dreams supported.
Instead of brushing off good things, even little things, as coincidence or random good luck, put those things in the positive evidence file in your head. After all, if you’re willing to believe the Universe doesn’t support you because you always get cut off in traffic, why not believe that the Universe does support you when you’re having a bad day and someone lets you in front of them?
It’s your choice. Choose wisely.
Jennifer Alvey is a recovering lawyer who coaches hope to attorneys who aren’t sure they should have any. It’s probably irrational, but it’s what she does. What’s in your positive evidence mental file? Drop her a line at jalvey AT jenniferalvey.com.